Using a vibrator for the first time: A ‘how-to’

First time using a vibrator? New to sex toys altogether? Don’t worry – we’re certainly not. Whatever your sex, gender and personal kinks, there’s a vibrator out there waiting to enhance your sex life – you just need to learn how to use it.

Here, we explain the benefits of masturbation and cover all you need to know to have the best first-time vibrator experience, from setting the mood and taking time to explore the body, to discovering your perfect vibrator and communicating with partners. So, lie back, relax and get ready to have your earth shattered.

Good vibrations

There are a multitude of benefits to masturbation, with the most obvious one being that it feels incredible. But the plus points extend far beyond those knee-trembling moments, with the body releasing a concoction of hormones at the point of orgasm that can lead to stress relief and better sleep in the long run. Explore more health benefits of masturbation.

And here’s something you may not be expecting: studies have shown that couples who use vibrators report increased relationship satisfaction compared to couples who don’t.

Communication is everything

If using sex toys with a partner, communication is key. Remember that no-one is a mind reader, so voice when something’s working for you, and don’t be afraid to make suggestions when something it’s not. We’re willing to bet your partner will find it hot that you’re taking the lead and experimenting with your pleasure!

Not sure where to start? Here are some things you can try as a couple:

  • If you’re doing foreplay and want to increase anticipation, you and your partner can alternate between using a vibrator and using your hands for stimulation. Play with finding the edge of orgasm with a vibrator before easing off on the heightened stimulation.
  • Try using a mirror. Seeing yourself getting turned on and being able to watch what your partner is doing to you can take vibrator play to new levels.
  • If you have a clitoris, hold a vibrator over it while your partner goes down on you, or while you’re having penetrative sex.

Setting the mood

It goes without saying that you’ll have an overall better experience if you’re ‘in the mood’ and aroused, so set the tone before the sex toy comes in to play.

Foreplay enhances whatever comes afterwards and will increase your chances of having a first-time vibrator orgasm, so do whatever you need to do to get in the mood – whether that’s teasing or paying special attention to non-genital areas such as lips, torso or butt – or firing up your favorite porn.

How to use a vibrator for the first time

Masturbation is often talked about as something instinctual, but that’s not always the case – especially if you’re using a toy for the first time. You have to learn what you like and uncovering pleasure can be a journey, so take time to explore the body and adopt a willingness to experiment.

A good starting point for getting to know your vibrator is to figure out what your specific vibrator is designed for – whether that’s external or internal stimulation – before familiarizing yourself with the settings.

Many toys have different modes that determine how they pulsate and how intense the vibration will be. It may feel less daunting to try these out on your hand and get to grips with the different sensations before you take the plunge.

Remember, it’s essential to clean your sex toys after all the fun! Here’s how.

Best first-time vibrators

Want to know a secret? Any vibrator can be a first-time vibrator if you take things at your own pace. The real thing to consider is where you want the focus of the stimulation to be. Here’s our quick guide to selecting your perfect amateur first-time vibrator:

  • Anal: The OhMiBod® Lumen™ is an interactive vibrating butt plug that opens unexplored realms of interactive pleasure for elevated anal play. You can sync its buzz to your favourite beats or let lovers control your glow.

  • G-spot: For powerful pleasure in one smart package, Pearl2 boasts a sensually curved shaft to deliver deep G-spot stimulation. For on-the-go pleasure or daring couple play, try the Esca2.

  • Clitoris: Cliona is the ultimate clit vibrator and delivers powerful vibrations to both your clitoris and G-spot. Pocket-sized and discreet, it’s light on the hands and heavy on the vibes.

Using a vibrator for the first time may seem daunting, but it shouldn’t be. Take it slow and focus on getting to know yourself or your partner better. Simply enjoy playing around and revel in the sexual exploration – it’s half the fun! Ready to get started? Explore our vibrators.

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THIS ARTICLE WAS ORIGINALLY PUBLISHED ON KIIROO.COM ON JUNE 29 2022.