Masturbation month is upon us! You’ve probably stocked up on the coolest sex toys. But don’t forget the hottest toy of all: your imagination. During these times of social distancing, sexual fantasies bring some much-needed pleasure and relief. While still maintaining the necessary distance. Read all about the benefits of having sexual fantasies, whether you’re single or in a relationship.
SEXUAL FANTASIES: WHAT ARE THEY?
A sexual fantasy can be as simple or as extravagant as you’d like it to be. Just imagining having sex with your partner is a sexual fantasy as well. Whatever the setting, sexual fantasies are thoughts that, in some way, people find to get themselves sexually aroused.
Some fantasies are quite common, such as having a threesome or engaging in BDSM. There are some types of common sexual fantasies out there and some people have more than one fantasy.
Sometimes a random sexual thought will just pop up in your head. At work, while riding the subway, or when running into someone you find attractive. Different scenarios in real life can help trigger your imagination.
Some times, you willingly craft your very own imaginary porn production, lost in the maze of your own creative mind. This can make your masturbation sessions all the more intense and exciting.
THE BENEFITS OF HAVING SEXUAL FANTASIES
Maybe you feel embarrassed about your sexual fantasies. But there is no shame in having naughty daydreams. Indulging in sexual fantasies has numerous benefits.
For one, they make you feel good and in control. We don’t always have control over what happens in our lives. And that can be pretty frustrating and scary. But in a special place in our imagination, we run the show.
Also, sex starts in your mind. By getting in the mood with a juicy sexual fantasy, you will be all the more amped up when you engage in actual physical sex.
Another big advantage of sexual fantasies is that they allow you to become more familiar with your sexuality and the things that turn you on. The things you fantasize about can reveal a lot about your personality. For example, extroverted people are more likely to imagine group sex and polyamory. Or people with a very caring introverted personality are less likely to fantasize about BDSM or a dom/sub relationship like findom.
EMBRACING YOUR SEXUAL FANTASIES
So goodbye, crippling shame! Hello, sexy daydreams! Embracing your sexual fantasies is a healthy decision that you can make today.
Accepting yourself (kinky mind and all) will give you incredible peace of mind. Don’t hold back when you’re fantasizing during masturbation. Let your imagination run wild. As long as it's completely safe. The result will be that you’re a happier, more satisfied person.
If embracing your sexual fantasies is difficult for you, remember that it’s completely normal and healthy to have sexual thoughts. Everybody does. Plus, you never have to share them with anybody, if you’re not comfortable with that. Your mind is your personal safe space where anything you want can happen. Don’t be ashamed to enjoy the richness of your imagination.
SEXUAL FANTASIES FOR COUPLES
Your significant other should be the person you feel comfortable to share anything with. Right? Unfortunately, sex fantasies are often not talked about. Even between lovers.
Some people view fantasizing about someone other than your partner as cheating. Therefore, they won’t talk to their significant other about their sexual fantasies. Some people only like to think about being submissive or dominant in their sexual encounters. They have no intention of actually going through with it.
So, if you’re in a long term relationship, why not give it a shot! Tell your partner all about the naughty things that turn you on. They will get to know you on a whole new level. And, best-case scenario, you get to act out your amazing sexual fantasy with the hottest person in the world: your significant other.
When you share your sexual fantasy, your partner will be more inclined to share theirs as well. This will drastically increase the level of intimacy between the two of you.
SEXUAL FANTASIES WHEN YOU’RE SINGLE
And what about all the single people out there? You might not be in a relationship right now, but that doesn’t mean you can’t have some fun!
Using a steamy sexual fantasy will take your masturbation game to the next level. Your sexual fantasies can teach you a lot about your sexuality. Which can come in handy when you’re in the dating scene looking for a partner. Only when you know yourself, will you truly open up to someone else.
The next time you have sex with someone, you might even try to act out your ultimate sexual fantasy. But until that time, you can just enjoy it by yourself.
We hope you’ve become inspired to let your imagination run wild tonight while you give yourself some love. Enjoy!