Common Women's Sexual Fantasies


Everyone has a dirty mind. Literally everyone. All men and women, deep down, have some pretty kinky sexual fantasies. Yup, even your prude aunt Rita.

While a lot is known about some of the most popular fantasy ideas of men, less is commonly known about women’s sexual fantasies. Unfortunately, most women will not likely share their secret sex fantasies, even with their partners.

That’s why we’ve put together a list of the 5 most common women’s sexual fantasies. We are all aware of dirty talk, using sex toys or role-playing in your sex life. You ladies might recognize a few of your own favorite sex fantasies or sexual desires. For you, gents, these might serve as an eye-opener.

Although every woman is, of course, unique and most likely has her own specific sexual fantasies. There are some scenarios that are guaranteed to make the majority of us ladies flood our basement.


It’s often said that sex is all about control. That’s why it’s no surprise that dominating or being dominated is a very common female fantasy. Time to get your 50 shades on!

The domination fantasy can work both ways. It would surprise you how many women would love to be tied-up, dominated and taken. To have the man be in total control over her. To basically act as his sex slave just for the night. This can be extremely exciting.

At the same time, a lot of women fantasize about being the one who dominates. Ordering their man to perform acts of sexual pleasure. Or even making him beg for doing so. This might give you an ego boost like never before!


Many women experience a rather conservative romantic life with a monogamous long-term relationship.

This is why it’s so hot to fantasize about having casual sex with a complete stranger. If you’ve ever watched porn (and I’m assuming you have), you know just how thrilling this scenario can be. Whether it’s a pizza delivery guy, a plumber or just a random hot dude on the street asking for directions.

It’s all about that urging I-don’t-care-let’s-have-sex-right-fricking-now-feeling. That dirty feeling of being so horny you could care less that you don’t know the guy's name. You just want to get it good and get it now. The idea that afterward you both just leave and never see each other again is also a major turn-on for women, considering it’s so different than the real life most of them are used to.


Another quite common female fantasy is having sex in a public place. This scenario can take place just about anywhere. In a dressing room, a bathroom stall, or behind the bushes in the park.

The reason this fantasy is so popular usually has to do with the thrill of breaking the law. Of doing something you’re not supposed to be doing. Add to that the fear of getting caught by a random bystander and the excitement goes through the roof!

Just as with the sex-with-a-stranger-fantasy, imagining doing it in public is hot because of the urge aspect. You don’t care that someone might hear or see you. You don’t care that you might scrape your lower back on some bricks. All you want is to rip each other’s clothes off with not a second to waste.


Don’t mind a third wheel joining the party? If you’re a woman, there’s a good chance that, sometime in your life, you’ve fantasized about partaking in a threesome. Whether it’s with a man and another woman or with two guys (a devil’s three-way), it’s unmistakably a naughty and exhilarating thought.

Many straight women fantasize about having sex with another woman. You don’t have to be a guy or a lesbian to appreciate the hotness of a Sofia Vergara or a Kate Upton. So maybe you secretly dream about getting it on with your man and a hot chick in the middle.

On the other hand, a lot of women secretly fantasize about being fought over by two eager men. Some ladies might play this scene out in their heads as being very gentle and erotic. Others go crazy for the thought of hardcore, porn-like sex with two dudes.


There aren’t many professions that are more looked down upon than that of a stripper. That’s why imagining being one, makes for such a naughty and irresistible scenario for women.

Imagine being adorned in smoking hot lingerie and sky-high heels, walking confidently around a high-end club and giving a lap dance to a rich daddy who shoves a 100 dollar bill in your panties. Did it just get hot in here?

The beauty of all these sexual fantasies is, of course, that they don’t necessarily ever have to become a reality. That’s why women can make them as wild, crazy and dirty in their mind as they like. Nobody needs to know except you and your vibrator.


Lara Metman

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