Interesting Things to Know About the Penis
I have always viewed the penis as one of nature’s many works of art. Its look, its feel and what it can do while on a man. And even more astounding is what it can do when it’s put inside someone. Thinking about some of those things over the years is part of what makes me the big sex geek that I am.
With that said, I’ve made a list of 20 of those things. Whether you have a penis or play with someone who does, this list might confirm and/or explain some things you have consciously or subconsciously noticed about the penis over time:
Penises come in many different shapes and textures. A different shaped head or a non-chemically induced more prominent showing of veins during an erection is not a deformity. It’s a sign of individuality.
One of the most sensitive parts of the penis is the glans.
Due to the sensitivity when making male masturbation sleeves (electric or manual), stimulation via the glans is the primary focus of most sex toy designers.
The glans of an uncut penis is more sensitive than the glans of a circumcised penis.
Due to that sensitivity, pull back the foreskin when putting on condoms, and when giving oral sex to a man who is uncut. Or make a back and forth of the foreskin. Otherwise, you will be viewed by that uncut person as being unskilled in oral.
After circumcision, a very thin layer of skin forms over the penis. Hence the decrease in sensitivity compared to an uncircumcised penis.
Because of this aforementioned thin layer of skin, guys with circumcised penises often taken longer to reach orgasm than an uncircumcised person with the same sexual responses. Even more so with a condom. However, with all of the possible STIs, using condoms is a needed consideration.
For masturbation, uncircumcised penises seldom require store-bought lubricants or masturbation creams. The foreskin produces the needed moisture. Therefore, such lubes and creams are more so for circumcised penises.
Older men are more prone to lose their erection sooner when they are circumcised.
Circumcision does not make the penis less susceptible to STIs. That is a myth made to profit from circumcision. A penis requires thorough cleaning and protection be it uncut or cut.
Be the man cut or uncut, the frenulum is still a sensitive spot on the penis.
The penis does not end on the outside as many would believe. It actually continues little ways inside.
The internal continuation of the penis can be stimulated by massaging the perineum (a.k.a. taint)
If a man suspects he suffers from erectile dysfunction, his sleep pattern is one thing he should check before seeking medical help. For the penis like any other body part is at its best after a decent amount of rest. If that fails, then see a physician.
Diet also affects erection. Less junk and processed foods combined with the aforementioned proper rest increases stamina.
Don’t rely on male enhancement pills for every penetrating encounter. Your penis can become drug-smart about the pills if the succession of use becomes too close. Therefore, your body will adapt and the pills will stop working. You see, your penis does have a brain.
While the thought of sounding makes many males cringe, it becomes understandable when you realize the urethra also has nerve endings that contribute to the sensation you feel surging through you during an orgasm. However, sounding is still a kink that you are advised to do all of your homework on before participating in.
Your urethra is cleaned out of toxins from urine by acid in your semen during ejaculation. This is why a cumshot to the eyes can burn.
Bigger is NOT better. It’s the old saying that’s true, “It’s not the size of the boat, but the motion of the ocean.” As long as the penis is long enough to hit the g-spot or prostate, unachieved stimulation in the person being penetrated is not about penis size. It’s either:
A) The person being penetrated not maintaining their body
B) The penetrating partner not knowing the proper rhythm or angle to stimulate his partner, or
C) A combination of (A) & (B)
So don’t believe the ads for penis pumps and porn titles shaming your size. A vagina or anus can receive pleasure from practically any size penis as long as they are properly maintained, plus the penetrating partner is skilled at learning his sex partner’s body.
- As you can see, the penis is a complex, pleasure-seeking, and pleasure-giving tool bestowed upon us by nature. One that always gives us new learning material based on the pain, (but way more so) joy it has experienced and given to others. And I for one love the lessons I have learned from my own. Combine that with what I can learn by playing with the penis of my sex partners, and I am one happy camper.
Now that we know that the Penis has his special things, we go into one of the head topics: Does size matter?
PENIS SIZE; A MUCH-DEBATED TOPIC
An Opinion Piece by the Legendary LeNair Xavier
In case you didn’t know, my day job is that I work in a well-known sex shop in the U.S. With that, I see a lot of trends. Some for the better, and some for the worst.
This article is addressing one that I’m seeing for the worst. It’s guys buying penis pumps and extenders. This is alarming because it means more and more males are doubting their sexual prowess, and it’s being told to them that their penis size is to blame.
So that’s cruelty in communication. Plus, if you don’t know what you’re doing, one can do permanent damage to the penis by using a penis pump. Especially if they do so repeatedly, and excessively.
So one must ask themselves if the risk of permanent penile damage worth a quick-fix to a larger penis that’s going to go back to its normal size once you take off the cock ring you put on after pumping?
BIGGER IS BETTER?
The idea of Bigger is better” is one of the main fallacies spread since the days of colonial slavery.
Hence why white slave owners were threatened by the “big black cock”, which now in the fetishizing of black males, lead to the crude hashtag of “#BBC”. And this idea has been continued by the porn industry hiring only males perceived as well-endowed, with scene partners instructed to act like it’s the best sex ever because of that size.
I should know because I used to be a gay porn actor, who was a “bottom” (receiver of penetration) in all of my studio-based videos.
THE PENIS PUMP
I tried a penis pump out of curiosity a couple of years ago. Now, I have never seen myself as having a penis that’s too large, or too small. I have always seen myself as proportionate, even after a porn director once told me, in a totally unrelated conversation, that I wasn’t big enough to be a “top” (penetrating male in gay sex) for his movies.
Well, if I had used that pump after that insult, that socially inept moron of a director might have been satisfied, but I would not have been. Because as far as I’m concerned, after pumping, my penis looked disproportionate to my body. Looking like it belonged on an alien, instead of on me.
“After pumping, my penis looked disproportionate to my body. Looking like it belonged on an alien, instead of on me.”
Now, what made that director a socially inept moron is the fact that his insult was the day of a shoot before shooting even began. Dumb move considering how one’s sexual ego is the tool a porn actor needs to do their job. But I wasn’t embarrassed or broken by his comment. I was enraged because I thought of how this would affect someone not as self-assured about their body as me. So I got my revenge by denying him a cumshot, which in gay porn, both a top and bottom are supposed to give.
PAY NO ATTENTION TO PEOPLE THAT CAN’T VALUE YOUR PENIS SIZE
That director wasn’t the only one who could have broken my faith in my penis size. I have also been to sex parties where guys will see my face, like my body, so they grab my dick, feel the length and girth,… then walk away. Sometimes, however, they come back. Either because they’re insatiable, or they lust for me after seeing me penetrate someone else. So then they want to experience the same pleasure the playmate they witnessed expressed.
However, after their dismissal of me earlier, I instantly lose my interest in them. So an erection is not going to happen easily since my normal routine is to focus on that person. So for the sake of hoping I’m one day proven wrong, to get an erection, I focus on either the thought of being in the “size queen’s” hole (and not focus on their “standards”) or the memory of someone else. Sadly, however, what do I always, always, always, ALWAYS find?… A loose hole.
So being an unprepared size-queen has led to them having a loose hole because they are not taking care of their bodies by doing exercises like Kegels. I do Kegels all the time, and it has led to me being sexually satisfied by males of almost all sizes. As well as giving pleasure to males of all sizes. So yes, Kegels can work for males as well.
Please don’t misunderstand my statements about gay male bottoms and straight women who are size-queens. I’m not judging you being a size-queen in general.
My point here is to say that if you’re going to be a size-queen, then do so out of preference, not the physical necessity from actions regarding your own detriment. So if you have become the latter, it’s never too late to try becoming the former.
Start doing Kegels now, or females can start using a dilator as another choice in trying to repair their bodies.
Size-Queens should take better care of their body. Kegel exercises can help rejuvenate your Anus. Another advantage to Kegels is that by doing them, you can become a better source to yourself in being aware as to who in all actuality is the better lover. When you reach that point, you will most likely find the guy with the average or less than average sized penis as the better lover.
STAY STRONG AND HAVE FAITH IN WHAT NATURE GAVE YOU!
The reason for this is that mainstream porn often celebrates the stereotypical message of the “bigger is better” myth. This bad influence has led “better”-endowed males to feel all they have to do to be considered “a great lover” is to enter the orifice with no rhythm or special move required. And stereotypical porn teaches the receiver of the penetration to teach themselves to accept this laziness from such a male.
Meanwhile, a male with an average or less-than-average-sized penis might be more inclined to put in the extra work to make sure his partner is satisfied. And if that penetrated partner has not followed this type of porn’s bad lead, then they will no doubt feel the benefits of that guy’s extra work.
It’s why I know what I know.
My main hope by bestowing all of this information is for both parties to do their part in having great sexual relations.
And to let any guys questioning their sexual prowess because of their size to have faith.
Have faith because if you haven’t done steroids or something else that can decrease your penis size, then you are working with what nature gave you.
So you should know that there is a great chance that dismissal claimed to be about your penis size is very likely the other person’s need to correct themselves.
Not you. So stay strong.
LeNair Xavier has studied sex and sexuality by reading up on and observing various sexual behaviors. These observations has led to time in the gay porn industry, and now writing erotic poetry. Tales of his journeys leading to his growing sexual knowledge can be found on his blog, L’s X-Ray Vision.
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