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Perineal Massage: How to give a Perineum Massage For Men and Women

Perineal Massage: How to give a Perineum Massage For Men and Women

Exploring Untouched Pleasure With Perineum Massages

When you think about pleasure, what parts of the body come to mind? The penis? The clitoris? What about the perineum?

While you know what the penis and clitoris are, you may be scratching your head when trying to visualize where the perineum is located.

We tend to assume pleasure comes from the penis and clitoris, but that’s wrong. This is why we’re going to focus on the perineum - have you heard of it? Yes? No? Well, it’s about time you did.

What is the Perineum?

Yes, both men and women have perineum, but they differ slightly in location. The female perineum is a diamond-shaped structure between the anus and vulva. It plays a role in sexual intercourse, childbirth, defecation, and micturition.

The male perineum is an erogenous zone located between the testicles and anus. It has a role in sexual intercourse, protecting the pelvic floor muscles and blood vessels and nerves leading to the genitals. In other words, it plays an important role in both men and women, particularly by strengthening and supporting the pelvic floor.

However, when it comes to pleasure, specifically for men, male perineum massage can help access the prostate - and that’s a key player in reaching the g-spot.

What is the Prostate?

The prostate gland is around the size of a walnut that wraps around the neck of the bladder, controlling the production and release of seminal fluid. Through the aging process, the prostate grows. Only men have a prostate.

External prostate stimulation can be performed via the perineum or internally via the anus. Perineum and internal prostate massages can reach the male g-spot. Naturally, not all men are comfortable with anal play; however, perineum massages offer men an alternative to achieving the male g-spot.

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How To Do Perineal Massage for Men

When it comes to male perineum massage, it’s important to note that everyone has their own preferences. However, starting with this simple technique can help you get started. For perineum stimulation.

You can apply high-quality lube, like Kiiroo’s Spark Lube or perineal massage oil on your hands and index fingers. Then place a couple of fingertips on the perineum and gently rub in a circular motion.

You can also try stroking the area with your fingertips or licking the perineum. While trying out these methods, make sure to communicate with your partner. Listening to their response, and adjusting your movements along the way. The key is not to ‘dig’ into the perineum; instead, think of it as a back massage - apply gentle pressure.

You can also experiment with stimulating the perineum on your own. With perineum massage for men, start by gently touching the area, exploring the different pressures and motions until you find what suits you.

If you’re enjoying it, you can add sex toys with perineum stimulation, like Kiiroo’s OhMibOD Lumen. This can also stimulate the prostate for new sensations and male anal stimulation. Learning how to do a perineal massage is the first step; now, you need to practice.

The Hidden Gem: More Than Just Pleasure

While its clear external prostate stimulation via the perineum provides immense pleasure for men, there’s more to it. Perineum massage for men has numerous benefits for prostate health.

Since the prostate is responsible for ejaculation and seminal fluid, stimulating the p-spot through male anal stimulation or perineum massage can increase ejaculation, with one study finding that it reduces the risk of prostate cancer.

In addition, massage has the benefits of relieving the following conditions: painful ejaculation, urine flow, prostatitis, and erectile dysfunction.

How To Do Perineal Massage for Women

Canadian scientists tested the sensitivities of several erogenous zones on the female body. Including the perineum, side breast, and nipple, comparing them to neutral areas like the forearm and abdomen.

They found that the perineum area is one of the most sensitive areas on the female body. The perineum is known for its sensitivity and can be stimulated with touch. In addition, the pubococcygeus, or PC, forms a figure-eight around the vaginal opening and anus, which is why many women enjoy anal and perineum massage.

Perineal massage for women is similar to male perineal massage. The giving partner can gently rub, stroke, or lick the area - make sure to apply lube to the hands and fingers first. If comfortable, you can incorporate a sex toy, like Cliona by Kiiroo.

You can also explore perineal massage during masturbation, seeing what combination of techniques provides the most pleasure.

Specifically for women, perineal massage during pregnancy is encouraged for perineal stretching and manipulating the perineal tissue. The reason being is to prepare the perineal tissue for vaginal delivery.

Perineal massage during pregnancy helps to prevent perineal tearing, which can damage the pelvic floor after childbirth. In addition, it also prepares women for vaginal delivery.

How to Prepare Receiving a Perineal Massage

First thing you should know as a receiver is that sometimes these massages can give the feeling like you need to pee. So, empty your bladder before having a perineal massage. If you’re new to this, it’s important to practice deep breathing to relax the body, especially the anal sphincter.

Once the anal sphincter is relaxed, it’ll be easier to enjoy the overall experience. Lastly, the physical position you’re in may impact the massage. Here are some positions to try out:


  • To do by yourself: Lie face down, reaching your arms behind you. Then you reach your perineum or anus with your lubricated fingers.

  • To do with your partner: lie face down with your arms by your side and legs slightly apart. Have your partner sit beside you while they gently massage your perineum.

Legs Up

  • To do by yourself: lie down on your back with your knees pressed up against your chest. Use one arm to hold your legs in place and the other to reach your perineum.

  • To do with your partner: lie on your back with your knees pressed up against your chest, holding them with both hands. Have your partner kneel in front of you, massaging your perineum.


  • To do by yourself: go into doggy style (on all fours), reaching your arm between your legs.

  • To do with your partner: go on all fours, have your partner kneel behind you, massaging your perineum.

On Your Side

  • To do by yourself: lie down on your side, bringing your outer leg towards your chest, and reach your hand around to your perineum.

  • To do with your partner: lie on your side, bringing your outer leg towards your chest. Have your partner sit behind you, massaging your perineum.

Are there risks with Perineum Massage?

Like everything, there are risks. While perineum and prostate massages are, in general, healthy practices, if overused or not done properly, can cause damage and pain. The anal mucosa [anal lining] and the anus are both very sensitive.

If the area is not properly prepared, anal stimulation can cause tearing and pain, which could lead to infection if not treated properly. Hence why it’s important to know how to give a perineal massage. To reduce the risk of tearing and pain, invest time in foreplay before engaging in perineal and prostate massage.

Must-Know Safety Tips

While it may seem fairly straightforward, we have to remind you of some important safety tips to ensure your perineum massage is a pleasurable one.

  • Always make sure you have gained consent to give a perineum massage to your partner. Do not surprise them. You and your partner need to have an open line of communication and understand the boundaries - this will prevent trauma from occurring.

  • When engaging in any sexual activity, make sure you’re using sex toys that are body-safe.

  • For anal stimulation for men or women, use sex toys that are specifically designed for anal. They usually have a flared base or handle. Do not insert objects such as a light bulb, softball, vase, or hard-boiled egg.

  • Always use lube. Whether it’s a perineum massage, vaginal penetration, or anal stimulation for men or women, make sure to use lube especially when using a sex toy.

Receiving a perineum massage can take you to new heights of pleasure. However, it’s important you know how to do it properly. Hopefully, this guide will help you improve your perineum massage skills.


Natasha Ivanovic

Natasha Ivanovic is an intimacy, dating, and relationship writer best known for her writings on Kiiroo, LovePanky, Post Pravda, and more. She's the creator and author of her short stories on TheLonelySerb. She completed her first degree in Criminology and continued and finished her Masters in Investigative Psychology, but then decided to follow her true passion of writing.

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This article was originally published on on 15 September 2021.
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