Some people are just naturally… cunning linguists. They can talk dirty with the best of ‘em. But for those of us who aren’t naturally gifted in the art of dirty talk, it can be a little intimidating. Today, let’s talk about how we can get more comfortable with expressing things sexually.
Dirty Talk: Nomenclature
First thing’s first: What do you call things? Some people like cock, some like dick, pecker, or just plain old penis. Vagina? Pussy? Vadge? This is entirely up to you and your partner to decide! While some people may frown on using euphemisms, I believe there is no wrong way to talk about your own anatomy. As long as you’re both enjoying yourselves, call your genitals whatever you want.
Long Distance Dirty Talk
If you’re in a long-distance relationship, you’ve probably had a bit of phone sex. Or maybe you’re better at typing how you feel. Either way, the same basic ideas apply. You can always start with something simple. “I would love to ____ you right now,” or, “I wish I could your___.” “Remember when we,____” is another great starting point. If you’re not used to it, there’s a pretty good chance you’ll feel a little silly at first, or like you’re not being very sexy. Just relax, and you’ll naturally get into it.
Be specific! “I love the way your back arches when I touch you there.” Use evocative language which reminds them of a time you were together. Talk about things they’ve worn that turned you on, or something they did that drove you crazy. Then, talk about how it made you feel: “When I saw you in those tight blue briefs, I couldn’t wait to____.” (Fill in the blank space)
Keep it going. “Tell me how that feels,” or, “Where do you want to be touched?” Some couples like to get a bit more explicit, while some like to keep things more on the sensual, romantic side. Neither is wrong, and you should do what feels comfortable for you.
While there’s no substitute for being with your partner, learning how to communicate sexually can help bridge the distance gap. It can be a fun way to explore new facets of your sexuality. You can even take it a step further and share pleasure with your partner using KIIROO couples toys, available in our shop.