Tips on starting and cleaning your sex toys
When suggesting bringing sex toys into the bedroom, a variety of emotions can emerge. Such as one’s sense of adventure, their curiosity, their anxiety, violation of privacy, and even the feeling of being threatened.
So how do you get a guy to bring sex toys into the bedroom? In many cases, however, males will fall into one of 2 extremes. And here is how you can try handling each of those extremes:
SUGGESTING TOY PLAY TO A MAN
TAKE HIM TO A SEX SHOP TO BUY A NECESSITY FOR YOUR RELATIONSHIP.
Once there, at some point, he’ll have to turn around and see all of the toys around him. This will bring a twinkle to his eye since males love gadgets regardless of that gadget’s purpose. So his interest will be piqued whether he’s looking at anything from the simplest tiny battery-operated vibrator, to a rechargeable one even if it looks phallic.
JUST BE DIRECT AND SUGGEST IT.
If you know your man has less of an ego and is also an adventurer (overtly or secretly), he’ll jump at the chance to try something new. He won’t be threatened by the insecurity that a sex toy will replace him. All you have to take note of is his range of openness at that time. For at first suggestion, while he may be open to the idea of trying something new, he might not necessarily be open to going all out immediately. For just as you needed time to progress to where you are with sex toys, so does he.
Whatever the case, be your man the one suggesting the use of toys, or the one that the use of toys is being suggested to, a mutual respect of the others level of sex toy play knowledge must be implemented. For be it couples, or friends with benefits, sex partners that grow together, stay playing together. For every scenario above, we got the toys ready.
But aside from pleasure, what else can sex toys be good for? Well, honestly, a lot of things. We’re going to share with you the 15 reasons why you should use sex toys at any stage of your sex life, single or taken.
Revive your sex life
Perhaps you've been with your partner for years, and your sex life is good, but it's routine. In other words, you're bored. You don't want to change your partner; you simply want to spice things up. Well, get yourself a couples' toy to switch up the routine.
Explore your sexuality
Do you really know what turns you on? But, seriously. Do you? Not many people know what turns them on until they start exploring and trying new things out in the bedroom. This doesn’t mean you need to jump in and immediately try out anal toys.
It improves mental health
Mental health is a huge topic, and your sexual health is heavily tied to it. When you engage in self-pleasure or sex with a partner and achieve an orgasm, you're actually improving your mental health.
Our lives have become stressful ones, but that doesn’t mean it needs to affect your sex life. Orgasms play an important role in your mental health and happiness.
Say goodbye to pelvic floor problems
If you have pelvic floor (PF) issues, you just found your solution. Many sex toys, including kegel balls, help to rebuild the muscles in your pelvic floor. The PF is a group of muscles that support the bladder, bowel, and parts of our genitalia.
If you have a vagina, Kegels can help strengthen those muscles. By improving your pelvic floor, you can have more intense orgasms, and who doesn't want that?
Woman can archieve a clitoral orgasm
Many women struggle with achieving orgasm, with some women not knowing what an orgasm even feels like. It’s extremely unfortunate, but luckily, sex toys can help. Sex toys can provide clitoral stimulation, which is the most common way women achieve orgasm.
Yes, oral sex can also do the trick, but it can take some time for a woman to relax and let go. So, by focusing on clitoral stimulation with a vibrator, women can finally have the orgasm they’ve been waiting for while masturbating or with their partner.
Improve your orgasm
Okay, so you now know that sex toys can help achieve a clitoral orgasm for women, but they also help intensify orgasm for both men and women. Certain toys help target specific areas such as the G-spot, releasing a g-spot orgasm for men and women. So, you can experiment and see which areas work best for you.
It improves your sleep
Many people suffer from inadequate sleep yet struggle to find a solution. But the solution is actually between your legs. Masturbation is a great way to help improve your sleep. Not to mention, squeeze in a little self-pleasure at the same time.
Work through your sexual issues
Your sexual confidence and sexual health are important and something you need to focus on. And it all starts with masturbation. We all have issues with self-esteem, self-endurance, and sexual confidence; however, masturbation allows you to explore your body without the pressures of having a partner around.
By discovering your body and learning about it, you start to appreciate yourself and understand what works for you and what doesn't. Toys such as Kiiroo's Onyx+ Realm Virtual Reality Pack can help you dive into your fantasies and explore what turns you on.
Close the gap in your long-distance relationship
Long-distance relationships (LDR) are hard enough as it is, but teledildonics has made intimacy possible for couples divided by distance. One main problem couples face in LDR is intimacy.
But toys such as Kiiroo's Onyx+ Cliona Couples Set allow two-way interactive stimulation between partners in long-distance relationships. Bridge the gap in your long-distance relationship and keep the flame alive with sex toys.
It boosts your self-esteem
You want to feel good when having sex either through solo-pleasure or with a partner. Perhaps you've met people with high sexual self-esteem and are wondering how they do it. Well, it all comes down to masturbation. By masturbating more frequently, your self-esteem will increase, and you'll gain more self-confidence about your body and its capabilities.
Works for all types of couples
The beauty of sex toys is that they're not limited to one's sexual preference or orientation. Whether you're interested in vaginal sex, oral sex, or anal sex, there are toys that can provide you with the pleasure you're looking for. The world of sex toys is entirely inclusive, so there will always be something out there for you.
Keep the vagina healthy
Whether your partner has a vagina or you have a vagina, it's safe to say we all want healthy vaginas in our sex life. An unhealthy vagina is a sad vagina. Using a rabbit vibrator can help maintain the walls of the vagina.
The lining of the vagina produces secretions that moisturize the area. By doing so, it increases vaginal elasticity keeping the vagina at an optimal state. It also prevents infections by flushing out unwanted fluids.
Who doesn't like some self-pleasure?
At the end of the day, we all want to have good sexual health and enjoy our sexual experiences. If anything, the main reason why you should want a sex toy is to develop and grow your sex life, making it as pleasurable as possible. If that's what you want, a sex toy can help you achieve that.
Expand your horizons!
Self-discovery and self-care have become huge topics, but are you spending time discovering yourself? Whether you’re looking for a couples’ toy or a toy for solo action, sex toys can help you expand your pleasure horizons.
Using a rabbit vibrator or a bullet vibrator can increase clitoral stimulation, helping you achieve the orgasm you’ve been dreaming about. People who masturbate or have regular sex with their partners live betters lives—and who doesn’t want a better life?
As you can see, there are many reasons why you should try sex toys, and we're only skimming the surface! Let go and allow yourself to enjoy your sexual experience and your self-discovery journey, seeing the real sexual side of yourself.
Done with the toys? Don’t forget the aftercare.
6 TIPS ON CLEANING YOUR SEX TOYS
Something inside of you is saying, “it’s time to get a sex toy.” Regardless of how you got to that epiphany, it’s great that you’re now deciding to focus on self-pleasure. This is the 21st century!
Why wait for someone to get you off when you can do it yourself? How do you clean sex toys and keep them clean? How do you make sure they’re body-safe? Well, those questions are about to be answered. And some tips on buying a sex toy if you haven't bought one yet.
Cleaning your sex toys
What happens after you use it? Do you just throw it back into your drawer? When it comes to sex toys, you need to make sure your devices are clean as a whistle. If not, you’re opening yourself up to STIs and infections.1. It’s all about storage
If you want to ensure your sex toy stays clean, you need to focus on where you’re storing them. In the movies, you see people having them under their bed or drawer, but that’s not the right way to store them.
Your sex toys should be kept in a case or silk bag, which will protect them from bacteria-infested areas. Make sure the case is washable too. Once it’s stored in a case, you can keep it anywhere you want.
2. Clean them before and after each use
We don’t want to sound like a nagging parent, but you need to wash your sex toys before and after each use. This way, you make sure the toy is dust and dirt-free. The last thing you need is to spread dirt and dust in your most delicate of places.
Some people use soap and water, but that’s not a great idea. Ideally, you should look for a sex toy cleaner. Typical dishwashing soaps are full of chemicals and are not for internal use.
3. Get yourself a sex toy cleaner
There are plenty of sex toy cleaners available that will make sure your toy is spotless. The Kiiroo Pure Premium Toy Cleaner does an amazing job of cleaning toys while being alcohol-free, triclosan-free, and it is anti-bacterial.
And that’s really what you want in a cleaner, one that will clean your toys but is also body-safe. In general, you should see that the cleaner you’re using is water-based. Silicone and oil-based cleaners breakdown silicone, and that’s not what you want to happen to your sex toy (if it’s made of silicone).
4. Don’t put your toys away wet
So you’ve cleaned your toys, and now you want to put them in their case. But are they still wet? After washing your sex toys, double-check if they’re damp.
If so, let them air dry thoroughly on a clean towel or kitchen paper. This will prevent any growth of bacteria on them. Sex toys and bacteria don’t mix.
5. Don’t forget to wash your hands!
Did you think bacteria only live on your sex toys? Your hands are a petri dish for bacteria. So, before even thinking about touching your toy, wash your hands. We usually don’t think about it, but we’re touching a lot of things before we masturbate.
Maybe you did a household chore, like cleaned your bathroom toilet, and decided to reward yourself with some solo-pleasure. It’s a great reward, but make sure you’re not bringing any unwanted bacteria to your genitals.
6. Feeling lazy? Use a condom
There are times where you’re in a heated moment, and the last thing you want to do is pull out your cleaning spray and waste those precious moments cleaning your toy. We get it. So, when you have those moments, put a condom on your toy. Just make sure the lube you’re using isn’t oil-based so that it won’t erode the condom.
How do you choose a sex toy?
It’s a good question and it isn’t so easy to answer. But keep in mind everyone is different and your needs won’t necessarily be the same as others.
Whether you want to buy your sex toy at a physical store or online, you need to start window shopping. Take notice of the toys that catch your eye and pique your interest. It’ll help if you have a little bit of experience with masturbation, then you’ll have a better idea of what you really enjoy.
If you have a vagina, do you want a toy for clitoral stimulation? What about anal penetration? By knowing what area of your genitals you want to focus on, you can narrow down your options.
Usually, those with vaginas are looking for a toy to be inserted. Those with penises are looking for a toy to surround the penis, such as a sleeve or stroker.
Old school or tech-savvy?
Many years ago, we wouldn’t be asking ourselves this question, but now it’s a question that everyone needs to ask themselves before buying a toy. Of course, you have your standard dildos, vibrators, and basic sex toys that do the trick. But more interactive sex toys work wonders if you’re looking for a more exciting self-pleasuring experience.
For example, Kiiroo’s Male Masturbators lets the user connect to interactive content. Naturally, the masturbator also has manual and automatic modes for when you just want to keep it simple. So, ask yourself what you want from your experience.
If you haven’t bought a sex toy before, you may think that you need to go all out and get yourself a giant dildo when you’re not quite sure if that’s what you want. It’s best to start off small until you find the toy that works for you.
The first toy you buy may not do the trick. Plus, you can always work your way up to more intense and advanced toys. There’s no rush.
Do you want it to be versatile?
If you’re single, then you’re buying the sex toy primarily for yourself and your needs. But maybe you want a toy that’s a little more versatile. Many of us want sex toys for ourselves, but also want to share them with our partners.
If that’s the case for you, consider looking at a couple's set. It’ll give you a toy for yourself and your partner that you can either use for solo-masturbation or with them.
Check if it’s body-safe
Many people, when buying a sex toy, focus on buying the cheapest toy on the market. But when it comes to sex toys, you don’t want to play it cheap. These are devices that are going to be used on your body.
So, you must check that they’re skin safe. Body-safe and high-quality toys aren’t necessarily going to be found in the bargain bin. When it comes to self-pleasure, invest in your toys, and make your health a priority.
Focus on materials such as silicone, metal, and glass, as they’re non-porous and are easy to clean. Materials such as rubber and jelly are porous and contain phthalates, meaning they’re difficult to clean and can lead to infections or illnesses. Whether it’s a vibrator, dildo, or butt plug, you need to double-check that the material used is body-safe.
Finding the right sex toy for you will take some time, but once you find it, you’ll have the time of your life. Just make sure to follow the cleaning tips provided so your self-pleasure can continue to be a smooth ride.
Natasha Ivanovic is an intimacy, dating, and relationship writer best known for her writings on Kiiroo, LovePanky, Post Pravda, and more. She's the creator and author of her short stories on TheLonelySerb. She completed her first degree in Criminology and continued and finished her Masters in Investigative Psychology, but then decided to follow her true passion of writing.