Practice makes Perfect
Obviously, you want to rock your partner’s world with amazing oral sex. Who doesn’t? We all want our partners to feel pleasure from us.
That said, you may be wondering how to improve your oral sex game and really blow their minds. Here’s the thing you need to know, there’s no universal formula for pleasure. We all like different things in bed.
What may have worked for one partner in the past will not work for your current partner, and that’s completely fine. The first step is understanding that and not seeing it as a flaw.
However, whether it’s cunnilingus or blow jobs, there are a couple of things you can do to improve your oral sex game and sex life. It’s time you found out what they are.
If you’re not in the mood, don’t do it
It seems like a simple point, but if you’re performing oral sex and you’re doing it because you feel you have to—don’t do it. There’s nothing worse than receiving oral sex from your partner when they’re clearly not into it.
It’ll bring the general vibe down and can really mess with a person’s feelings. It’s easy to assume when someone is eating pussy or giving head their lack of interest has something to do with you.
The last thing you want is your partner to start developing insecurities about themselves when there aren’t any. If you’re not feeling it, don’t do it. You’re not always going to be in the mood and that’s normal.
Communicate with your partner
There’s nothing wrong with surprising your partner with a new sex toy or sex position, but great sex comes down to communication. It’s something you can’t avoid for long. How do you know if your partner even likes the new sex position or the new oral sex technique your using?
Everyone likes certain things, so if you want to improve your oral sex game, talk to your partner. Giving head isn’t a one-size-fits-all formula—we all have our kinks and desires.
You don’t need to have a serious interview with them; have a flirtatious conversation about what you like and let them share their sexual interests.
Slow things down, way down
I know you want to get your partner off, but giving head or eating pussy isn’t a race. It’s easy to rush into things with the goal to make the person climax. And obviously, if they climax it’s a great achievement, but it shouldn’t be the main goal.
Mind-blowing oral sex is when the giver is truly enjoying the experience and exploring their partner’s body. When performing oral sex, take the time to pleasure them.
Discover their erogenous zones and what really arouses them. And to achieve that, it takes time. That said, don’t eliminate the quickie out of your repertoire, they’re always fun from time to time.
Get wet and wild
A lot of people opt for using their own spit as a lubricant, and there’s no question that it works. But, you may need more lubricant than your mouth can produce. So, don’t be afraid to use lubricant during oral sex. If the receiving partner is a female partner, lubrication will make cunnilingus feel even better.
Lubrication reduces friction and helps transfer sensations to the receiver. Not to mention, it also makes your job easier. Whether you’re using fingers or a sex toy, lube will help prevent any tissue tearing and soreness—rule of thumb: when in doubt, lube.
Tired hands? Go hands-free
There’s no doubt about it; oral sex can be tiring for the giver. Whether you have a male partner or a female partner, everyone takes their own time to become aroused and climax. Now, that’s perfectly normal, but there’s a high chance you’re going to get a sore hand and jaw halfway through.
The good thing is there are hands-free options for you to go with. Using a sex toy such as the Kiiroo’s Pearl2 G-Sport Vibrator or Kiiroo’s Titan Sleeve. The right sex toy can help you take a break from manual stimulation while still turning your female or male partner on.
Throw some fantasy into the mix
If you want to add some spice to your sex life and switch up your oral sex routine, why don’t you add some fantasy into the mix? Talk to your partner about their fantasies and see what they’re into.
Maybe they want to roleplay and receive oral sex while you’re their naughty high school teacher. Or explore stimulation with a Virtual Reality sex toy and enter into a completely new and shared reality.
When it comes to oral sex, allow yourself to let go and explore pleasure with your partner. Communicate with your partner, find out what their desires are, and see this as a sexual adventure you two are taking together. Your sex life is in your hands. Hopefully, these tips will help you improve your oral sex game and sex life.
Natasha Ivanovic is an intimacy, dating, and relationship writer best known for her writings on Kiiroo, LovePanky, Post Pravda, and more. She's the creator and author of her short stories on TheLonelySerb. She completed her first degree in Criminology and continued and finished her Masters in Investigative Psychology, but then decided to follow her true passion of writing.