How to give yourself an orgasm

Achieving Orgasms by yourself

We tend to rely heavily on our partners for our sexual pleasure, but the power is truly in your hands. If you’re looking for ways to improve your sex life, start by learning about your own body and what gets you off.

Whether you’re a woman or man, these tips are going to help you give yourself a stronger and more intimate orgasm. And let’s be honest, who doesn’t want that?

Explore blended orgasms

For women, we assume the only way they can orgasm is through clitoral stimulation or penetrative sex. But that’s wrong. Okay, it’s not wrong, but it’s not entirely correct either. There are many areas of the body, for both men and women, that can stimulate an orgasm. Especially with the use of sex toys.

Once you explore your body, you may realize you can have simultaneous orgasms by pleasuring multiple regions of the body at the same time. You need to spend time exploring yourself and seeing the areas that can give you a full-body response.

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Go into a different world

We all have imaginations; you just need to stimulate your own. Give yourself an orgasm by entering into a different world. How is this done?

Through interactive virtual reality toys. The future is here! Through VR, men and women can explore different realities with virtual sex videos or virtual porn. Sometimes, we just need to step out of reality to get aroused.

Virtual sex, though relatively new, has done an amazing job of connecting people to their fantasies through virtual porn and virtual sex videos. The best part is that virtual reality sex toys can produce handsfree orgasms.

Talk more about sex

If you want to improve your sex life and increase your orgasms, nothing will happen if you keep quiet. The only way to improve a situation is by communicating.

If you have a partner, talk to them about sex and what your sexual interests are. Whether you want to play sex games or use weird sex toys, what’s important is that you actively work towards improving your orgasms.

Make masturbation a daily practice

Whether you choose to masturbate with your hands or have handsfree orgasms with an interactive toy, you’re going to need to practice. Having consistent orgasms isn’t going to happen overnight. Make masturbation a daily part of your self-care routine.

Masturbation can help you achieve an orgasm as it allows you time to explore yourself without the added pressure of another person in the room. Masturbation is an activity that needs to be embraced if you want to give yourself an orgasm.

Get creative

Sex should be something you’re constantly exploring. Go try remote control sex toys with your partner, test out virtual sex, buy some weird looking sex toys, or play sex games.

There’s nothing with exploring the world of sex, and sometimes, to orgasm, you need to get a little creative and step outside the box. Whether you’re with your partner or engaging in solo play, have fun with sex and break down your sexual barriers.

Try sex toys

We’re living in the 21st century, which means you have the world at your disposal. Orgasming may not come easy to you, but that doesn’t mean it’s not achievable. You can experiment and find out what works for you.

There are tons of options to choose from regardless of your gender. You can try sex toys for men, such as a male stroker, remote control sex toys, or female sex toys such as vibrators and dildos. Take the time to see what works for you. See all our male sex toys here.

Focus on self-care

We know what you’re thinking, what does self-care have to do with orgasming? Well, a lot, actually. When you feel good and confident about yourself, you’re refreshed and sexier.

Self-care is about connecting with your body and stimulating your senses. By heightening your senses, this can carry into the bedroom. A scalp treatment or back massage may be just the thing you need to add more sensuality to your day.

Don’t over-hype it

Yes, you deserve to orgasm. But the pressure you place on yourself to orgasm often is the reason why you can’t orgasm. Don’t focus so much on the end-goal, and rather, be in the moment.

Regardless of whether you’re using your hands, a male stroker, or vibrator, be in the experience. The odds are the more you enjoy your sexual experience, the higher chance you’ll orgasm.

Can you give yourself an orgasm? Absolutely! Like I said, the power is literally in your hands.

Take time to explore your sexual side and see what turns you on. Follow these tips, and you won’t be able to take your hand out of your pants.


Natasha Ivanovic

Natasha Ivanovic is an intimacy, dating, and relationship writer best known for her writings on Kiiroo, LovePanky, Post Pravda, and more. She's the creator and author of her short stories on TheLonelySerb. She completed her first degree in Criminology and continued and finished her Masters in Investigative Psychology, but then decided to follow her true passion of writing.

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