Making your video calls Sexy
Have you ever logged into a video chat only to find yourself thinking, “Damn, do I always look like this?”
Webcams, particularly those that come built into your PC or Mac, tend to be low to mid-range in quality. They don’t usually shoot well in poor lighting and can make even the hottest among us look a little zombified.
Luckily, we’ve got you covered with some of our top tips for looking hot on camera.
1. PREP, PREP, THEN PREP, AGAIN
A video sex chat session (while tons of fun) can be stressful or nerve-wracking if you’re not in the right headspace for it, so make sure that you give yourself ample time to prepare for it.
This can include simple steps, such as setting up the camera, making sure the audio quality is right, and asking any roommates if they can head out for the evening. It can also involve getting out any sexy props that you want, purchase some new lingerie, or place everything just right so that you’ll never have to fumble during your digital sexcapades.
2. Take a tip from Tyra and know your angles.
For example, I have a shallow chin and a round face. When I’m shot from below, I look about 15 pounds heavier and a bit like an earthworm.
Therefore, I always tilt my screen so that my camera is facing directly at me, or slightly down. Most people look a bit better shot ever so slightly from above, but be careful not to veer into Myspace angles.
3. As any pro photographer knows, lighting is key.
If you’re regularly video chatting with your beloved, it might be worth your while to invest in an extra floor or desk lamp.
As for bulbs, look for something marked “natural”, incandescent, or with a blush tint. These tend to be flattering for all skin tones and will help offset the blue-toned glow that your computer gives off.
4. Set the scene
Dim the lights, put on some candles, maybe even sprinkle some rose petals about. The more of an atmosphere you can set the easier it will be to really feel the intimacy of the moment.
If you and your partner really want to sync up, then you can even do things like buying the same scented candles. Make sure you’ve both got something special on it order to arouse and entice each other (striptease is a great way to build into other activities after all).
5. Make sure you wear comfortable clothing.
Preferably clothing that photographs well. If you’re not comfortable, you’ll fidget, and then you won’t be able to enjoy your chat.
As for colors, black can sometimes be too harsh, but charcoal grey, navy, and darker jewel tones typically look nice. If you’re going to strip for your partner, pay attention to how easily your clothes come off. It would be cute in a romcom if a person fell out of their chair while taking off their shirt, but in real life, it’s painful.
6. This part is optional, but I suggest learning how to use concealer.
I know, I know, it’s not traditionally masculine, and women shouldn’t need makeup to feel beautiful.
But the truth is, webcams can make you look sallow, and they can make any blemishes appear more prominent because of the contrast they frequently provide.
For this reason, I recommend you become familiar with concealer, and how to use it believable. I like L’Oreal and NYX for drugstore brands, and YSL Touché Eclát is brilliant for dark undereye circles. Dot on a conservative amount, then tap with your fingers to blend. Don’t rub.
7. If you wear makeup regularly, overdo it a little for the camera.
For the same reason that celebs often sport a full face on the red carpet, you may want to be a little heavy-handed before you cam.
A friend of mine recommends extra highlighter on your cheekbones, under your eyes, on the bridge of your knows, and just below the arch of your brows. I like to use just a little more blush than usual, to help give my face some dimension.
8. Last, but not least, relax.
You’re probably on video chat to see someone you care about. Ultimately, looking perfect isn’t the important part.
They’ll be so glad to see your face, it won’t matter if you’re immaculately lit and perfectly made up.
9. Keep the narration
You may think that being on webcam means that talking isn’t as much of a priority but I couldn’t disagree more! After all, by moving on to video sex chat you’re essentially building off of the communication that you’ve already established, so why stop now? If anything you both need it more as you guide each other through this new (and exciting) experience.
Being vocal is also a great way to accentuate what’s happening on screen too, adding a performative element to your sexual display. If ever you feel uncomfortable, you always have the option to turn the camera off or away and return to talking again for a while too. Your voice is one of your biggest allies. Don’t be afraid to use it.
10. Make video chat sexy
Anyone who has been away from their partner for a certain amount of time will probably have experienced that familiar craving to connect. Nowadays phones, computers, and tablets have made it more possible than ever to forge significant relationships (and maintain them) over once inconceivable distances. It’s never easy, but it is doable and that’s an amazing feat.
While on the topic of ‘doable’, sexual exchanges have also become increasingly meaningful with the development of new and exciting ways to connect. First came texting, then video chat, and now the integration of teledildonic devices (such as Kiiroo) all seeking to give people in LDRs meaningful ways to reach out and truly experience each other sexually.
11. Use toys together
Sadly, the net has yet to masterfully tactile projections of ourselves, but this doesn’t mean that touch is completely off-limits. Again, using your voice you can always narrate to each other where you want your partner to be touched as they comply. This is fun on its own but gets even more excited when sex toys are involved.
The outcome of this interaction depends entirely on the sex toy, and there’s a lot of choices out there, but (obviously) I think Kiiroo is a great option. With the Kiiroo platform, you have a secure video chat service, fully established while the toys allow you to feel each other’s every motion in real-time. This can create an amazing experience which (after you’ve perfected all of the above moves) can truly unify you in an intense sexual exchange.
12. Don't forget the aftercare
Once you’ve both had your fill of sexual activities then take some time to talk. Not just about the experience, but about anything you normally would. Anything that comes to mind. Consider this the video sex chat equivalent of lying in each other’s arms in the post-sex afterglow, reminding your partner just how much they mean to you.
And finally, we have some good news. We designed the KIIROO platform to be not only safe and secure but also flattering. By being very particular about video call quality, we can ensure that you look your best while enjoying your KIIROO couples toys.
This article was originally published on 16th July 2014 on Kiiroo.com