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A beginner’s guide to prostate play

Prostate play the safe way

Prostate stimulation can result in intense orgasms, yet few people know how to engage in prostate play or even where to find it. Read this short guide to learn how to stimulate the prostate, and discover the safe practices which will take you from zero to hero in no time at all!

Prostate play is still sadly shrouded in taboo. Maybe they’re scared it will hurt? Perhaps they’re embarrassed at the thought of their partners poking around down ‘there’?

Some definitely associate it with being gay – Wake up and smell the coffee, you are what you are, engaging in butt play isn’t going to change that!

Thankfully, there are more and more men who are enjoying gratification from prostate stimulation, but we want every man to open their minds (and their ass-holes) to it, to discover something new, something exciting!

Some men are so turned off to the idea of acknowledging their prostates, they don’t even know what purpose they serve or what it’s even there for? Then a bit of subtle education will certainly help. Knowledge is power, or so they say.

The prostate gland is a really important part of the reproductive system,. When men start to see it as more of a sexual organ, they may start to understand how it can provide pleasure and become more open to the possibility, of (one day) exploring it further.

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What is the prostate?

The prostate is a ping-pong ball sized gland found between the bladder and the penis. It's purpose is to make, and propel, a seminal fluid that mixes with sperm to make semen.

Because of this, the prostate gland is only found in those assigned male at birth - although prostate play allows anyone, regardless of gender, to join in the fun.

How to find it

The p-spot is located just in front of the rectum, so you'll need to get a little creative to find it. Ways to do this include using your fingers or exploring the area with anal sex toys such as the Lumen interactive vibrating butt plug by Kiiroo.

These can also provide some crazy pleasurable experiences, so it's definitely worth putting in the effort. If anal play is not your thing, you may be pleased to know that you don't have to stimulate the prostate via the rectum.

You can also reach it via the perineum - the region between the scrotum and anus. To do this you only need to find the soft, fleshy area between your legs and above the rectum.

What does it feel like?

Start by feeling behind the perineum. You'll know when you find it as it tends to swell during sexual arousal due to increased blood flow. It may feel like a soft and fleshy bulb of tissue behind the rectum.

Plus, due to the nerve endings surrounding the p-spot, it can also feel really good. You may notice a feeling of needing to go to the toilet - but don't worry, it won't actually cause you to pee. If you have any reservations about the sensation of needing to pee, you can always empty your bladder beforehand.

What are some safe practices?

Once you have managed to find the prostate, it's time to work your way up to a prostate orgasm. Start by getting in the mood and relaxing in the moment.

If you have a partner who is willing to explore prostate stimulation with you, it's a good idea that they take any hygiene precautions. Such as washing their hands and making sure there's no sharp edges on their nails!

The partner can also use a condom or a latex glove for extra protection. Just make sure to bring water based lube.

How to engage in prostate play

There's a bunch of different ways to stimulate the prostate. You can experiment with the following techniques to get started. You may find that different techniques change the experience.

  • Use a digit (finger) to the locate the p-spot and stimulate your prostate by moving your finger in a 'come hither' gesture
  • Try prostate massage by gently rubbing it in a pushing or circular motion
  • Use an anal sex toy to apply vibration to the prostate

You can use prostate massage to milk the prostate. This will produce a seminal fluid and may or may not result in having an orgasm. If you do reach orgasm with prostate play, the sensations can be pretty intense and can include a full body orgasm.

Massaging the prostate may also have some medical benefits including improving erectile dysfunction, improving urine flow, helping ejaculation, and even preventing prostatitis.

How to stimulate the prostate using sex toys

If you are exploring the prostate by yourself, you may want to think about using an anal sex toy. Sex toys for men have come a long way in recent years, and now include anal sex toys, butt plugs, and other body-safe sex toys.

These can provide deep stimulation as well as pressure and vibrations in all the right places, so you can easily achieve the coveted p-spot orgasm in record time. Just make sure to use plenty of water-based lube as the rectum is not self-lubricating.

Sex positions for prostate play

You can access the prostate in many different ways, but you may find these the easiest to get started. You can use these positions with a partner or during solo play.

  • Lay on your side with one leg to your chest
  • Lay face down and stimulate the p-spot from behind
  • Have both legs up to give clear access to the area between your legs
  • Try anal penetration (using an anal sex toy or a partner) using the doggy style position

Wrapping up

Exploring prostate play can be a fun way to broaden the horizons of your sex life, with or without a partner. Just make sure everyone is on-board with the experience beforehand. Prostate stimulation may take a bit of practice, but once you get the hang of it, you'll be well on your way to intense full body orgasms.


James Howard

James Howard is a freelance copywriter and content marketer who specializes in creating personalized content experiences for niche audiences. He has years of experience working in the performance marketing industry, and has strong ties to the affiliate world. James currently lives on a 27' sailboat in the Solent on a budget, works from his laptop, and trains calisthenics on the beach.