Sex Party Etiquette – 7 Rules that lead to Gay Sex Party Bliss

Gay Sex Party Etiquette

Sex parties are something many gay males take part in at some point. However, from time to time, some display behaviors that make them need to be reminded that while sex itself is primal, there are still rules of etiquette to follow. Rules to make sure everyone is comfortable, and feeling bliss in the release of sexual tension. Here are a good 7 rules to make your trip to a gay sex party a trip to a sexual heaven:

1. Prepare Yourself

If you know you’re going to a sex party, one must prepare their body.

So if you’re a top, make yourself ready for an active night. If you have no pre-existing condition to prevent you from partaking of them, you might consider the following:

1)a (safe) “male enhancement” pill
2)an energy drink.

Because when you walk through the door, you’re likely to find the 80’s hit “So Many Men, So Little Time” playing in your head. That is unless you find that one special person you want to play with all night.

If you’re a bottom, clean out thoroughly. Start the douching process about 2 hours before leaving for the party. This will be made easier if you eat easy to digest foods. Primarily non-processed foods. The less of those in your diet beforehand, the better. Now, if you don’t have time to give yourself a proper cleaning, then skip this party. We males are lustful creatures, so there’s always another party.

NOTE TO TOPS: Considering the most common use for the anus, accidents may happen, and a good top is understanding of that. With that said, a sign of when it’s an accident, and not carelessness or ignorance of cleaning is when it happens some time after the sex has started. If it’s soon after, then the bottom’s carelessness can be pretty much to blame.

2. It’s A Social Gathering, But Not A Lounge

Yes, a sex party is a social gathering, but don’t chit-chat in the play areas using them as a lounge. No one playing wants to hear you catch up with friends talking about your work day, latest vacation, family tragedy, etc. Most sex party spaces and clubs have areas for that purpose. Please use them.

3. Don’t Be A Bug In One’s Ear

Voyeurism is a natural turn-on. One that can make us get very spirited in our viewing to where we verbalize our excitement. However, don’t ask questions of the guys having sex. Don’t be a bug in either one of their ears giving tips, or egging them on. Don’t give commentary like you’re a sportscaster reporting on a sporting event. If you’re that kind of voyeur, then it’s best for all parties at the party that you watch from a distance.

4. Don’t Play With One, And Refuse To Play With All

If there are a group of guys playing, and you have your sights on just one of them, if you don’t plan to include the others in that group, leave that guy alone. Now, if he breaks off from the group to play with you, then that’s a different story. But if he’s not willing to leave, then you’re to leave him be. It’s a sex party, not a search for your sole soulmate. So you should come in with the outlook of there being more fish in the sea if that guys or Fate fails your lust.

5. Don’t Rape The Fellow Guests

Regardless of whether:

1. A) your color, ethnicity, body type, financial standing, or combination of one or more of the aforementioned make you the gay media-endorsed ideal;
2. B) your confidence in your sexual prowess makes you feel like you’re the better lover, or;
3. C) you’re simply that horny…

UNDER NO CIRCUMSTANCES ARE YOU TO RAPE YOUR FELLOW SEX PARTYGOERS. So don’t try making it “your turn” on a guy when you have not been invited. If a bottom you want just got done having sex with someone else, and they can’t see you, if you think he’s inviting himself to be gangbanged, touch him first to let him know you’re there. If he doesn’t move, then you’re in. Otherwise, you need to get a thicker skin, in following the next rule…

6. Be Man Enough To Take Rejection

Not everyone you lust for will lust for you back. Some will reject you because of their own natural personal preferences. While many more who reject you will do so because they feel you don’t fit the mold of what gay media says is “sexy” based on your color/ethnicity, age, income, etc. Whatever the case, no matter how wrong their reasons for rejecting you might be, have enough faith in your sex appeal to say “His loss, is somebody else’s gain”. Followed by making yourself available for that next person.

7. Don’t Act Desperate

Yes, it’s a sex party, and we all get super horny. That’s why we masturbate (sometimes using sex toys) when no one is available. However, no matter how horny you get, don’t act desperate.

Desperation is not a sexy trait. Don’t walk around the party inspecting every guy like they do at The Bunny Ranch before choosing a girl. That’s treating a person like a piece of meat at a butcher shop. And any lusting man with a high self-esteem will not want you if you look at him in that way. So all you will get with that gaze is an obvious self-loathing guy, or an egomaniac using sex as an ego stroker. Looking for any stick to fill his ass, or any ass to wrap around his dick for the sake of saying they had sex.

Conclusion

I hope you take these rules into account, and have a great time. In addition to the hot sex, following these Do’s & Don’t’s definitely make me enter and leave the party with a great sense of self-worth, confidence, and therefore,….a smile.

Written by:

LeNair Xavier

LeNair Xavier has studied sex and sexuality by reading up on and observing various sexual behaviors. These observations has led to time in the gay porn industry, and now writing erotic poetry. Tales of his journeys leading to his growing sexual knowledge can be found on his blog, L’s X-Ray Vision.

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