It can be an absolutely devastating sensation. You’re in the moment—bodies pressed against each other, lips touching, skin caressed—when, suddenly, it’s all over. In that instant, it can be hard not to feel broken and isolated, but the reality is you’re not alone and there is light at the end of the tunnel.
What is Premature Ejaculation?
As it turns out Premature Ejaculation is actually one of the most common ejaculation problems out there and some studies suggest that it might even be more common than Erectile Dysfunction.
So, what is Premature Ejaculation?
The clue is in the name really: Premature Ejaculation is when a male achieves orgasm too quickly (typically between 30 seconds and 4 minutes) and this causes distress for himself and/or his partner/s. Generally, there are two recognized types of Premature Ejaculation: primary, which has occurred since the first point of sexual activity, and secondary, which occurs later in life.
This may sound pretty straightforward, but Premature Ejaculation is actually very open-ended and incredibly dependent on the individuals involved. If you and your partner/s are fine with the length of your sexual intercourse, then Premature Ejaculation isn’t an issue at all, and may not even be diagnosed. It’s only when one or more people in the relationship perceive it as a problem that Premature Ejaculation becomes one.
There are many things that can cause Premature Ejaculation; such as excitement, the sensitivity of the nerves, stress, anxiety, depression, relationship problems, other psychological factors etc. The multifaceted nature of Premature Ejaculation can seem daunting, but there are some universal remedies regardless.
Overcoming Premature Ejaculation
If you’re suffering from Premature Ejaculation and you’re seeking help then I’ve got some good news for you. Because Premature Ejaculation is common there are a ton of suggestions out there to help remedy the issue. Here are a few worth considering
A Trip to the Doctor’s Office
This may sound like the most obvious solution, but there’s a reason for that: It is. If you’re suffering from a severe case of Premature Ejaculation and it’s having a big impact on your life, then it’s worth checking in with your Doctor in addition to trying home solutions. They will be able to check for any underlying physical reasons and perhaps even refer you to a psychotherapist or prescribe some medication.
Delay Condoms & Anesthetic Creams
Nowadays you can buy specifically designed condoms that have a local anesthetic in them to help dull sensation and, thus, prolong the duration of sex before ejaculation. These creams can also be purchased on their own and applied directly to the penis. However, it’s worth noting that these condoms and creams don’t necessarily fix the problem, just mask it through dampening some of the sensations that the male experiences. Some of these creams may also cause irritation for you or your partner/s so I suggest caution before using them.
The ‘Stop-Start’ Technique
A case of ‘practice makes perfect’ this technique encourages men to practice prolonging their orgasm on their own before practicing with a partner. The ‘Stop-Start’ Technique involves masturbating to the point of climax and then stopping just short. Men are advised to do this for a minimum of 3 times before allowing himself to ejaculate.
The ‘Squeeze’ Technique is generally only recommended for the most severe of cases, as it is a long-term technique which heavily relies on partner participation and dedication.
Typically performed during a hand job, in this technique, the man’s partner squeezes the man’s penis in the area between the shaft and the glans for about 20-30 seconds just before they’re about to reach ejaculation. This is done at the point between the thumb (with the thumb on the frenulum) and the forefinger (which is positioned on the opposite side of the penis) and must be performed at least 4-5 times per session until you feel confident to try less squeezes.
Understandably, there’s a lot to learn about this technique and it takes time and dedication. At first, your partner/s might be uncomfortable with squeezing too hard and so it will take time before the grip and placement are figured out. This squeezing technique also works by creating a loss in erection strength, which may also feel odd at first. However, the success of the ‘Squeeze’ Technique is considered to be quite high (up to 97% by Masters and Johnson’s estimations) so it’s worth considering if you’re suffering from a severe case of Premature Ejaculation.
A Promising Outcome
Premature Ejaculation may seem like the end of the world but there’s an incredibly high success rate for rehabilitating sufferers. Whether it’s a quick fix situation or a long-term journey Premature Ejaculation is treatable and the techniques above should help you pursue a happier, healthier sex life.