The Perks of Being Single
You know the saying, the grass is always greener on the other side? And I hate to say it, but it’s true.
When I was single, I was longing for the day I would have a boyfriend by my side for dates and cuddle sessions on the couch. And once I got what I wanted, I realized single life wasn’t all that bad.
This isn’t to say my relationship isn’t good; it is. But the single life does come with its important life steps that we bash and ignore.
Though our society likes to match up people faster than you can say Uno! singlehood shouldn’t be something you want to run away from.
It’s time you started living your best life, and you don’t need someone beside you to do it. So, it’s time you learned about everything that makes the single life the best life.
You know being single is ok, right?
It really is. Being single is ok. Being in a relationship is ok. Neither is perfect, but whichever side you’re on, you should learn to embrace it.
Whether you want to know this or not, there are some serious life-changing benefits to being single that you need to know about.
1. You learn to love hanging out with yourself
Many people can’t stand being alone with themselves for longer than a minute. But if you’re single, you come to love spending time with yourself.
This doesn’t mean you don’t get lonely; even people in relationships experience loneliness. But you’re able to enjoy your own company without seeking entertainment from others.
And that’s something to admire, especially in today’s world where we can’t let go of our phones.
2. You have time to get to know you
I hear this from people in relationships all the time. They tell me, “I don’t know who I am anymore.” That’s assuming they knew who they were before being in a relationship.
Many of us jump into relationships without answering the biggest question of our lives, “who am I?”
Instead, we search for ourselves in other people, in our partners, and skip the entire process of self-discovery. But when you’re single, you’re forced to answer this question.
3. You have the freedom to sexually explore
Of course, you can sexually explore yourself when you’re in a relationship; that’s if your partner is comfortable with you doing so. If you want to have a threesome and your partner says they don’t want to, you need to respect that.
But, when you’re single, the world is your sexual oyster. Want to join a sex party? Go ahead! Don’t feel like having sex? Take a break!
Want to masturbate with your Kiiroo vibrator for the entire day? No one is stopping you!
4. You’re more willing to go with the flow
The single life follows no schedule; you create your own. If things pop up unexpectedly, you’re able to roll with the punches.
Why? Because you’re more self-sufficient.
You don’t have a partner to rely on. You don’t need to ask to do something out of respect. You take the risks you want to take, you follow the path that interests you.
5. You can decide what you want for yourself
When you’re single, you have more time to think about yourself. No, it’s not selfish; it’s something you should do. You have the time to ask yourself important questions.
What do you want out of your life? What are your goals?
As a single person, you’re able to explore your dreams and passions. Figuring out who you are and what you want out of your life without worrying about someone else.
6. You put yourself first
In any relationship, it's not just you anymore. Yes, you think about yourself, but you also need to keep your partner's needs in mind.
And sometimes, you and your partner's needs don't line up as well as you hoped. When you're single, you're the only person you can give yourself the attention you need.
You have time to focus on your friends, family, and hobbies. People in relationships tend to push aside the things they enjoy to spend more time with their partners.
7. You create your own confidence
Maybe you've seen people post a photo of their partner on Instagram with a similar caption, "I found you, and then I found myself." There's nothing wrong with being in a relationship with someone who makes you feel good.
That's the sign of a healthy relationship. But you know what's better? Loving yourself first without being in a relationship.
Being single gives you confidence that's self-earned. Someone didn't swoop you off your feet; you saw the beauty and strength within yourself on your own.
It’s easy to view singlehood as an unfulfilled part of your life, but that’s because you’re choosing not to embrace it. Stop listening to the people around you and make the most of your life whether you’re single or not. Whatever relationship status is, live your best life because as cheesy as it is, you only have one.
Natasha Ivanovic is an intimacy, dating, and relationship writer best known for her writings on Kiiroo, LovePanky, Post Pravda, and more. She's the creator and author of her short stories on TheLonelySerb. She completed her first degree in Criminology and continued and finished her Masters in Investigative Psychology, but then decided to follow her true passion of writing.