As time goes on, and people’s lives become more hectic, many things suffer. Male stamina is one of those things.
Male stamina is a concern of many across the globe. Unfortunately, we males are taught to never show a need for help or advice, especially on sexual stamina. Because of this, many suffer from feelings of inadequacy in silence.
However, bad stamina is not an inadequacy unless you choose to not try to do something about it. Notice I said “try”, not necessarily succeed. Just TRY.
And with that, I’d like to offer some suggestions for you to increase stamina.
Do this first during masturbation. When you feel yourself getting close, STOP. Take a few breaths, then start again slowly. Then pick up the pace again. Basically, you’re teasing yourself. Do this a number times, and it will prolong the amount of time before you reach orgasm. Once you have perfected this alone, use the same tactic with your partner.
For some, part of their poor stamina makes them ejaculate during foreplay. If such is the case for you, and you are quick to get an erection, then focus on your partner. Don’t touch yourself at all. Once you know your partner is ready, then you focus on your erection and use the aforementioned techniques.
While Kegels were originally intended to be used by women to strengthen their PC muscles, males can also do Kegels to strengthen their PC muscles. These muscles are the same ones you use to stop anything from leaving your urethra, and exercising them will help you to ward off ejaculation. Exercising your PC muscles may also result in more intense and satisfying orgasms.
To exercise your PC muscles, simply flex the muscle you use to stop yourself from urinating. Flex this muscle over and over again multiple times during the day. For a more entertaining workout, try flexing to the beat of the music.
This is a case where the biggest complaint about something makes it an asset somewhere else. Guys often say that they can’t feel as much when they are using condoms. For men with stamina issues, this desensitization can be a blessing. Find a condom that lessens your sensitivity, such as extra thick condoms. However, make sure you avoid condoms or lube that contain desensitizers. These desensitizers can be spread to your partner, which will lessen the experience for them as well.
Unfortunately, having a busy life has led some of us to eat more processed food than fresh foods. Processed foods are higher in fats and cholesterol, which lessen not just your energy levels, but your testosterone as well. I have personally tried to reduce my intake of processed foods and to eat more fresh foods. In the last six months, I have noticed a big improvement in my overall performance.
Check online for simple and quick healthy recipes. You can make a big batch of food and keep it for a few days. Reheating healthy leftovers is just as easy as heating premade unhealthy foods, and comes with many added health benefits.
Lack of sleep can affect your stamina by making it easier to lose your erection. Proof of a lessening ability to maintain an erection will be shown (at any age) by a loss of “morning wood”. If morning wood is a rare occurrence, especially when you’re younger, the first thing you should check is your sleeping habits. Check how refreshed you are feeling when you wake up. If you are not feeling refreshed and experiencing morning wood, you need to develop better sleeping habits. Give yourself more time to sleep every night. Also, turn off screens and other distractions before bed. The use of phones, computers, and TV’s before bed or while trying to sleep, has been shown to make falling asleep more difficult and to result in poorer quality sleep.
None of these suggestions will be instant fixes, but rather something you and your partner can work on over time. You must be patient and not allow yourself to get frustrated if things do not change immediately. And most of all, make sure you have fun, experiment with your partner, and work to make it a satisfying experience for both of you.
LeNair Xavier has studied sex and sexuality by reading up on and observing various sexual behaviors. These observations has led to time in the gay porn industry, and now writing erotic poetry. Tales of his journeys leading to his growing sexual knowledge can be found on his blog, L’s X-Ray Vision.