Sex Ed 102: What You Didn’t Learn in School
ARTICLE ORIGINALLY PUBLISHED ON June 16TH, 2014
They Didn't Tell You This
June is Adult Sex Ed Month! To celebrate, we’re going to dismantle some of the most common misconceptions surrounding sex education. Don’t worry – this should be a lot more fun than your high school health class.
1. All condoms are basically the same.
Besides material differences, condoms actually come in a wide variety of sizes. Not all condoms are created equal. Mainly, you have latex, polyisoprene, polyurethane, and to a lesser extent, lambskin.
Most companies make a “snug” condom, for penises that are smaller than average, and a “large” condom or “XL” for penises that are larger than average. Beyond this, there are actually differences among brands.
There’s also a new version of the female condom available now, called FC2. If you’re convinced that condoms just don’t work for you, you probably need to experiment with more brands and more styles.
2. It’s not normal to need lube.
Nothing could be further from the truth! First of all, there are many reasons to need lubricant. If you’ve noticed that you haven’t been producing as much vaginal moisture as you used to, it could be from taking birth control pills or antihistamines (many allergy pills), both of which are extremely common medications.
Even if you just require some lube to get things started, that’s perfectly normal and totally okay. Many people opt for water-based lube; try to choose one that’s formulated without glycerin. For a longer lasting slickness, look for a silicone-based lube (just don’t use it with silicone toys). For anal play, always use a lubricant.
3. Anal sex isn’t pleasurable for women.
Some people don’t enjoy anal sex, it’s true, but it definitely can be pleasurable regardless of your gender or genital anatomy! To ensure that you have a good anal experience, it’s best to keep a few things on hand and remember to go very slowly.
Start with a finger or a small butt plug made for beginners (silicone, glass, and metal are the best materials for bum toys). Use plenty of lubricants, and stop if you feel any pain. Never use a numbing cream, gel, lubricant, or spray – pain is your body’s way of telling you to stop.
4. The clitoris is the only sensitive part of the vagina.
Well, first of all, the clitoris is a separate organ from the vagina (which is technically the muscular tube-like canal). The clitoris is actually shaped like a wishbone, and while the part that is visible – known as the glans – is indeed the most sensitive, the internal “arms” are also pleasure centers.
Additionally, labia can be very sensitive, and the G-spot is no myth. Experiment with different kinds of touch and see what works best for you.
5. Bigger is always better.
I’m not here to knock bigger or smaller penises. In fact, I think you can be a phenomenal lover regardless of your penis size. What you really need to know is what position will maximize what you’re working with. Is your penis curved upwards?
You are going to be her G-spot’s best friend! Short, but thick? Try positions that allow maximum depth, like girl-on-top. Long and slender? You’re perfect for spooning because the added length makes it easier to maneuver. No matter your penis type, I guarantee you’re the best at something.
Here at KIIROO, we’re always focused on smart, quality adult sex education. If you’re interested in learning more about the future of sex toys, check out our article on Teledildonics! We’ve also covered some awesome information on sex toys for men, and why masturbation is part of a healthy sex life.