Hacks for a Healthy Long Distance Relationship
Let’s be honest with ourselves. No one ends up in a long-distance relationship thinking, “oh I just love being apart from my partner for months and months on end.” If anything, long-distance relationships happen out of force rather than desire. Does the idea of being miles apart make the relationship more romantic? Of course, but no one wants that much distance.
Couples who stay in a long-distance relationship, hope their patience and effort will be rewarded at the end. Even though many long-distance couples pull through, they put a lot of effort into their relationship. But how do they do it? How do they keep the spark alive with miles and different time zones in between them? As someone who’s been in a long-distance relationship, here are five hacks you can use to keep your long-distance relationship rolling in the right direction.
1. Ditch #relationshipgoals
Listen, social media may, in theory, sounds like a great idea to connect with people from around the world, but it’s also dangerous. You don’t have to ditch Instagram, for example, but do not compare your relationship to other people. Yes, many Instagram couples are full of smiles and inspirational quotes, but they all have their issues.
By looking at other couples, it’s easy to feel things are missing from the relationship. Maybe you don’t have the money to visit your partner right now, but other couples can fly back and forth with a snap of their fingers. And that’s okay - don’t take their lifestyle and relationship as something you need to live by. Make your own relationship goals with your partner.
2. Get Techy
You’re probably connected to social media, have a laptop, and even a Fitbit. Well, these are all technological devices. Though you may not have heard, technology is making a breakthrough for long-distance relationships. Aside from texting or video chatting on FaceTime, and Skype, there are tons of apps now being developed to bring people around the world closer together.
Apps like Front Row allow you to become a part of your partner’s day via a wearable live stream camera. Other apps like HEY Bracelet lets you feel your partner as it mimics human touch. If you thought FaceTime was advanced, well, I hope you’re pleasantly surprised. Spend some time focusing on apps which can help you increase communication and connection within your relationships.
3 Get off together
When it comes to long-distance relationships, there’s always a problem when it comes to sex. Some couples can pull through and manage to be sex-free when apart, while other couples really struggle with this aspect of their relationship. Distance may make the heart grow fonder, but it doesn’t help when you’re horny. Many couples send each other nudes, masturbate via FaceTime, SnapChat, or Skype, and these are great methods, but they don’t hit the spot.
But sex and tech are intertwining and helping people in long-distance relationships via interactive sex toys. The Couples Set by Kiiroo allows couples to mimic sex for both people through touch sensors and the use of the app. A simple swipe can send real-time vibrations to your partner, giving them the feeling you’re inside them. How crazy is that? So, ditch Snapchat, it’s time to go high-tech, sex tech!
4. Find something to share together
Aside from sex toys, you need to focus on sharing experiences. It sounds a little tricky considering you’re in a long-distance relationship, but hear me out. There are things you two, as a couple, can do together. It may not be as exciting as if they were next to you, but you still need to spend time together when you’re apart.
Whether it’s watching a movie or Netflix series together, cooking dinner over Skype together, or eating together, share these experiences. They’re small, but it’s never the big things that shape up a healthy relationship. Your relationship is based on small, intimate situations you share together.
5. Use your alone time
During your long-distance relationship, it’s safe to say you’re spending the majority of your time on your own. This isn’t something to have a heavy heart over; it’s the circumstances. But to make a long-distance relationship work, you need to grow and live your own life. Now, this doesn’t mean you need to party every night and go wild (you can if you want). But it means you shouldn’t fill your time staring at their photo with a tub of ice cream, reminiscing over the “good times.” You shouldn’t focus on becoming dependant on your partner. This will only weaken the relationship.
If you don’t learn to appreciate your time alone, the entire experience will be extremely stressful and heavy for both of you. Long-distance relationships, as you know, aren’t easy. They require mental and emotional strength which means by investing time in yourself; you’ll be able to contribute to the relationship positively.
Five years ago, when you told someone you’re in a long-distance relationship, they would say you’re crazy. But today, it’s an entirely different story. That’s because you’re not really that far away from your partner. You’re just not using the right tools for your relationship. So, give these relationship hacks a try!
Natasha Ivanovic is an intimacy, dating, and relationship writer best known for her writings on Kiiroo, LovePanky, Post Pravda, and more. She's the creator and author of her short stories on TheLonelySerb. She completed her first degree in Criminology and continued and finished her Masters in Investigative Psychology, but then decided to follow her true passion of writing.