The art of the perfect BJ

The power you feel after giving good head is immense – it can leave you feeling like you could take over the world, one dick at a time. Whether you're a beginner or a seasoned pro, here's some tips on how to give the perfect blowjob every time. 

Teeth

A key thing to take away from BJ 101 is that this is a sex act your teeth needn't join in on. The penis is a fragile thing, so it's best to approach a blowjob with the wet finesse of a pro swimmer on a Slip 'N Slide.

If you have any mercy for the person you're sucking off, don't go scraping your teeth on the shaft. To avoid giving a potato peeler of a blowjob, open your mouth wide and wrap your lips around the penis. When you can, cover your front bottom teeth with the front of your tongue.

Another great technique is to pucker you lips (yes, pull a duck face) as you approach the penis. This expression naturally tucks your teeth out of the way. If you have dentures, whip them out; this is your time to shine.

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Erogenous Zones

Erogenous zones are the parts of the body that have a heightened sensitivity which, when stimulated, may cause a sexual response. The penis, of course, is a hot bed for these zones. Although, don't only focus to these areas – they're quite sensitive so can do with a warm-up.

Playing with the sensitive parts of the penis is like playing a guitar solo in a song. For it to make its full impact, you need to build up to it with other stuff. However, when it does come to this 'guitar solo', here are the parts to pay attention to:

  • Head 
    The head of the penis has around 4,000 nerve endings, making it one of the most erogenous zones of the male body. Wet your lips and wrap them around the penis, then take the tip of your tongue to the head, moving along its rim.
    Why not use your tongue to write out a message on the head, letter by letter, e.g. feel free to use this time to give them your favorite lasagna recipe.
    Also, it's worth noting that the heads on uncircumcised dicks tend to be a lot more sensitive so make sure to mix things up a bit – too much focus on their heads can feel intense, verging on painful. 
  • Frenulum
    A frenulum is an elastic-like fold of skin that helps anchor mobile parts to your body. It's that fold of skin under your tongue, that one under your top lip and there's a pretty sensitive one on the underside of a dick.
    If you want the person you're giving a blowjob to, to feel amazing, get friendly with this frenulum. You're looking for the v-shaped part on the underside of the penis which connects the head to the shaft. 
  • Foreskin
    If you're working with an uncircumcised penis, you'll be glad to hear that the foreskin – the thin piece of skin that covers the penis – is full of nerve endings which feel great when stimulated. Go gentle here though, the foreskin is very delicate. So don't go tugging at it and definitely don't go treating the penis like a protein shake bottle.
    Hold the cock and gently move the foreskin over the head, back and forth, whilst giving the blowjob. Once you've done this a few times and gotten used to the rhythm and pressure that works, you can try moving the foreskin in the opposite direction to one your moving with your mouth. This takes a bit of co-ordination, so if you're one of those people who can pat their head whilst rubbing their belly simultaneously, this one's for you. 

Don't be afraid to explore outside the penile region too during a blowjob, or during in any sex positions, really. Keep a free hand busy by gently stroking sensitive areas like their inner wrist, nipples, or inner thigh.

Gag-Reflex

As you are waggling an object near the back of your throat, gagging can be part-and-parcel of giving head. Whilst gagging fetishes do exist, if you're looking to avoid gagging during deep throat, there's a few handy steps you can take.

Putting your tongue at the roof of your mouth can help quell a gag-reflex. Whilst another great way is to make a fist with your left hand, tucking the thumb of this hand inside the fist. There's many different theories as to why this works. This action distracts your brain from the party going on inside your mouth, and whilst it may not work for everyone, for many it certainly does do the trick.

Testicles

Don't let the balls get FOMO –  get them involved too. This may look like a gentle cupping. Where you let the testicles rest in your hand like a baseball in a catchers mitt, whilst rubbing them with your thumb. Unless your partner expresses a particular favor towards rough play, it's safest to be gentle here – imagine you're handling an egg. 

Sex Toys 

Why not involve sex toys too? Put a vibrator on a low setting and hold it on their balls or the frenulum whilst giving head. Or, penis in mouth, hold a vibrator under your chin to drive them wild. 

Talk it out 

Don't feel like you have to be a mind reader –feel free to communicate with the person you're giving head to and ask them what feels good. Additionally, keeping eye contact is a good idea as it not only maintains a sense of intimacy, but it also helps you to gauge what's working and when they may be close to ejaculation. 

Lastly, have fun and jump into a blowjob with enthusiasm. Think of giving head as an exploration of your partners body, finding what makes them tick. Now get out there and suck some dick!

Written by

Anna Thomas

Anna Thomas is a stand-up comedian and writer hailing from West Wales, currently situated in Lancashire. You can learn more about her here.

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