Bringing a Vibrator into the Bedroom

For some people, sex toys are a new, even intimidating, adventure. If you’ve never used one before, you might have some misconceptions about what they mean for you and your relationship. In order to bring adult toys into the bedroom, I really suggest you frame it as something else that you can do together. Vibrators aren’t just for solo sessions.

Some men are afraid of being “replaced” by a sex toy. Gents, you are so much more than a sex toy to your partner! Do not be afraid of not measuring up. Sure, your penis can’t vibrate, but a vibrator can’t plan a romantic date or go down on her like you can. A vibrator is just another tool that can help you please each other.

Some women are afraid that owning a vibrator makes them “bad” in some way, or “slutty.” The fact is, over 50% of women have used or regularly use a vibrator. It’s estimated that up to 80% of women over age 16 have used a vibrator at least once in their lives. It’s perfectly natural to seek sexual pleasure, and utilizing the latest technology is a fine way to do it.

So how can you go about integrating sexy toys into your relationship? First thing’s always first: Communication! Communication is the cornerstone of any happy relationship. Don’t surprise your partner with a vibrator completely out of the blue. It’s possible that they’ll be nervous, and they may be put off by it. Instead, bring it up first.

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If you’d like to use a vibrator on your partner, try something like this. “You know, I think it would be so sexy to use a toy with you. I already love making love to you, but I’ve been reading a little bit about vibrators, and it turns out there are some really cool things on the market. What do you think?”

If you’d like your partner to use a vibrator on you, try this. “I love the way you go down on me. There’s absolutely nothing like it. Would you be willing to try something new? I’ve been reading a little bit about vibrators, and I think it would be fun to use one together.”

Often, the smaller the vibrator, the less intimidating it is to partners. Vibrators designed to be used clitorally, like one of our 5 Best Clitoral Vibrators, are a great place to start. You can also read about couples toys here. Experiment with touching your partner different ways. Try using the vibrator on their nipples or on the insides their thighs. You don’t have to head straight south!

If you’re in a long-distance relationship, bringing in adult toys can be a wonderful way to ease the pain of sexual distance. They can really liven up a Skype or phone call, too! If you want to go all the way, check out KIIROO devices, which allow you to physically touch your partner over the internet.

Hopefully, this has been helpful and has shown that you have absolutely nothing to fear when it comes to bringing toys into your relationship. If you have any questions or suggestions, hit us up in the comments below!

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